If someone you love has an饮酒障碍（AUD），您可能想知道如何在清醒的旅程中支持他们。无论他们是伴侣，家庭成员还是密友 - 以及他们仍在喝酒还是完全停止饮酒 - 您都可以在他们的康复中发挥重要作用。
实际上，得到朋友和家人的支持通常对于试图保持清醒的人至关重要。Niloufar Nekou是一名有执照的婚姻和家庭治疗师，专门研究酒精使用障碍，并且是加利福尼亚州达纳角（Dana Point）Alter Health Group的临床主任。您的支持可能会提供外部动力，以保持清醒和情感支持。
Patrick Cronin这是一名成瘾专家，已经从AUD恢复了16年，同意。“那里有很多复发的故事，可以在亲人或支持小组的帮助下被阻止，” Bedrock Recovery Center的业务发展总监Cronin说，他是ARK经营的四个成瘾治疗设施之一。马萨诸塞州昆西的行为健康。
克罗宁补充说：“康复中的某人每天都在康复中，因此，对亲人保持友善，支持和不要在周围食用酒精非常重要。”
如何在康复中支持清醒
专家说，支持从AUD恢复的人可能会感到沮丧，混乱和压倒性 - 这是完全可以理解的。这里有六个技巧，可以帮助您和您所爱的人：
1. Seek Support for Yourself First
Even the most patient, compassionate, and empathetic people need to take care of their own well-being, especially if they’ve taken on a supportive role for someone in recovery.
“It’s impossible to properly support someone in recovery from AUD unless you have the proper support for yourself,” says Nekou.
克罗宁（Cronin）同意，并补充说，这可能意味着找到一个值得信赖的人与您所爱的人交谈，保持友谊，并获得为有AUD或其他药物使用障碍的朋友和家人设计的团体的支持。
Resources you may want look into to include:
- Al-Anon，一个为家人和酗酒朋友的12步计划
- SMART Recovery Family and Friends, which has meetings available in-person and online that provide concerned significant others science-based tools for effectively supporting their loved one, without supporting their AUD or other addictive behavior
2.了解饮酒障碍
关于饮酒和成瘾的刻板印象，神话和误解是丰富的。有时，我们没有意识到这些错误的信念 - 错误的信念会对我们与康复中的人的互动产生负面影响。
For example, the misconceptions that AUD only happens to certain “types” of people or that they just need to hit “rock bottom” to “snap them back to reality” can unintentionally be interpreted by the person in recovery that you don’t think they’re trying hard enough or that you don’t care to understand what they’re experiencing.
Nekou suggests educating yourself on potential triggers, health issues, enablement, the recovery process, and the psychological changes that addiction causes. “Loved ones will find it much easier to relate to and assist a recovering loved one if they understand addiction, and they will also be much better equipped to help prevent relapse,” Nekou says.
3. Don’t ‘Babysit’ Their Sobriety
康复倡导者说，“照顾”某人清醒通常不是一个好主意。Amy Liz Harrison，作者Eternally Expecting: A Mom of Eight Gets Sober and Gives Birth to a New Life ... Her Own。哈里森已经从酒精中清醒了十年。
她解释说，虽然您可能有良好的意愿，但最好像对待普通人一样对待他们。哈里森说：“保姆清醒意味着要控制并为该人做出决定，包括他们参加或不参加的事件。”
哈里森指出，更好的方法是问您如何最好地支持他们。“很明显，如果他们需要讲话，您可以有空，但是当他们重建新的生活时，他们需要养成新的习惯，并且很可能不需要不经历同一事情的人们的建议。”
除非康复中的人想谈论它，否则不提出清醒的话题也可能会有所帮助。“不喝酒是个人的，”哈里森说。“另外，不要向别人讲故事。尝试记住是否不是您的故事；这不是你的故事。”
4.注意旧图案
在恢复过程中的某个时候，您所爱的人可能会开始谈论返回酒精使用。他们可能会说他们已经学到了教训，现在可以正常喝酒或弄清楚如何控制他们的消费。
克罗宁建议：“在尊重任何界限的同时，观察他们的行为并关注任何熟悉的模式。”“如果您知道这个人足够了解，回到控制的饮酒可能是一个巨大的触发因素，请与他们交谈，让他们了解您担心。”
Cronin acknowledges it’s hard to trust someone who once had no control over their alcohol consumption — and knowing when and how to step in can be tricky. “Always stay alert and know when you need to request professional help,” Cronin advises.
寻求专业的帮助可以包括与家庭干预专家联系，讨论您注意到您所爱的人的行为，并在下一步上获得建议。这与保姆清醒并不一样，而是，当您所爱的人从事有关行为时，它正在介入。
5. Have Realistic Expectations
尼科说：“人们认为，饮酒障碍是该人一生中所有问题的根源，通常假定仅通过寻求治疗就可以治愈。
This misconception can leave many loved ones feeling disappointed by a loved one in recovery and the progress they’ve made or haven’t made, especially if a relapse occurs, Nekou explains. “It is definitely best to avoid statements or comments conveying disappointment, as it will likely be received as guilting or shaming and may even incite or exacerbate a relapse.”
请记住，停止饮酒并不是整个治疗方法。Nekou说，康复涉及检查该人行为的根本原因，并转移到更健康的策略以应对困难的情绪。
6.请记住，恢复比意志力要多得多
“当亲人有澳元时，周围的人通常很难理解发生了什么以及为什么这个人无法停止。内库说：“如果他们愿意，他们会退出。”
Recovering from an AUD involves much more than willpower because addiction is not a choice, Nekou explains. “This is where the myth of willpower overcoming addiction originates,” she says.
While people often make a conscious decision to use substances, the domino effect of addiction begins once these substances start to alter brain and bodily functions, creating an uncontrollable pattern of compulsive use. “No amount of willpower can completely combat this result,” she says.
While every person is different, Cronin agrees that having willpower is rarely enough in recovery. “I can say that after 16 years, willpower is a very important key,” he says. “But you need it alongside other tools such as treatment and a good support system.”
